Special Link: Father’s Day is a great time to appreciate the guidance, wisdom, and education that fathers provide
Tomorrow, as has been the custom for over 100 years, we will pay homage to the fathers of our lives.
The words father and father should be synonymous, but they are not. Dads can be described as fathers, but not all fathers can be called dads.
Currently, with the extraordinary medical innovations in assisted reproductive technology, the courts (and the law) are challenged to decide who is responsible.
A Florida Supreme Court ruling circa 2005 – apologies readers, I lost the ruling – defined a father as the sum of many parts: biological, marital, legal, functional, supportive, or any father. can occupy one or all of these definitions simultaneously.
• A biological father provides 50 percent of a child’s DNA, contributed during the oldest reunion ritual on the face of the earth; the natural event was and still is a festive achievement in the game of life.
• A “conjugal father” is the mother’s husband on the day the child is born.
• A “legal father” refers to the man who is legally identified as the person having all the rights, privileges, duties and obligations of fatherhood for a specific child.
• A “support father” describes a man who is only supposed to provide economic support to a child and who has no visitation or custody rights or is not supposed to perform these educational functions for personal reasons.
• The functional father is the man who actually brings up the child.
More traditionally, there is the “REAL daddy”: the man who brings both economic and emotional support to the child, and with whom the child develops a lasting emotional bond.
This effect lasts a lifetime. A pioneering study examining the quality of parents on stressful experiences found that “fathers play a unique and important role in the mental health of their children much later in life.”
Functional Dad is a fully involved male model who happily takes responsibility and cares for his children. A real daddy is someone so involved in this child’s life that he would “stop a bullet” without hesitation to keep his family safe.
Never having a choice when it comes to conception, how does a child survive when he realizes that his father may never match the set standard: incarcerated, anonymous, prematurely deceased, abandoned, or just plain indifferent?
Statistics have also shown that in this challenge of the maturation process, children can adapt and those who have flourished have received constant care from a grandparent, influential teacher, mentor, family members by flexible marriage or just a caring person. – who becomes their “surrogate” dad.
Some comments from famous people, some anonymous, some are dads, and some on dads.
“My dad taught me that diet and exercise are not enough to keep you from succumbing to stroke and heart attack if your job kills you. When my work-related stress was at this point for about five years, I left it.
“My father raised me. With good advice. Always tell the truth. ” – Pink
“My dad taught me that a tiny handful of really special and unusual parent-child interactions – ‘hey, let’s walk through town for no reason and eat a hot dog’ – can form the basis of a meaningful childhood. . memories. I made my kids’ dinner entirely from desserts once, because of that.
“My father believed in me even when I didn’t. He knew I could do it. – Taylor Swift.
“My dad taught me that if you want to bother to do something, finish it.
“A father figure is also a role model of who you could become if you have respect for him and his ideals.”
“My dad used to say it’s never too late to do what you want to do. And he said, you never know what you can accomplish until you try. – Michael Jordan.
“He worked two jobs, all day for an employer, almost every night for us so that we own our home. We barely saw him during the week. He passed away far too soon. – late Heather Jacobs Matthews
“By his constant faith in me and his willingness to take a step back and let me make my own decisions, he gave me respect for myself and by his example gave me the integrity to take responsibility. of my own actions. “
“I like being a dad; it is one of the joys of life. In fact, you can take everything from me tomorrow, but don’t take my children. – Idris Elbe
“He taught me, by implication, how to recognize a good man and in doing so set the standard for the men I would have in my own life.”
“He was determined that we would go to college – remortgage our house twice – leaving little for his own retirement.”
“My father’s only real explicit lesson, repeated over and over, was, ‘Accept responsibility for the consequences of your own actions.’ It’s a good lesson, I think.
“He also taught me to shoot billiards, to garden, to work on cars, to fix anything in the house; and, for example for many years, the value of unconditional love.
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Mistakes make fathers. Fathers make mistakes.
They are human beings, not infallible.
There is almost always an opportunity to correct mistakes by moving forward to reestablish bonds of love and caring.
For fathers who have had disputes with their children and children whose relationship is not the best with their father, tomorrow is another chance to look forward, not back, to forgive, not to blame, to make amends with no expectations, just enjoy being together.
Use this special day to reconnect – start a reconciliation.
There may never be another chance.
This is a revised article, written after the death of the author’s father. In memory of our father Cecil E Harris, the Sewing Machine Man 1918-2004.
Father’s childhood memories have a lasting impact on men’s ability to cope with stress, Melanie Mallers, PhD, California State University-Fullerton
• Martha Harris Myron, CPA JSM, originally from Bermuda, is the author of The Bermuda Islander Financial Planning Primers, international financial consultant for Olderhood Group International and financial columnist for The Royal Gazette. All proceeds from these items are donated to The Salvation Army in Bermuda. Contact: [email protected]